Freedom to marry.

As in the future someone might read this post and laugh to the fact that a week ago, gay marriage was not a freedom in the United State of America. As time pass by, society recognizes more and more that we actually exists, that do not come from a circus or a taboo, that we are people just like everyone and therefore we deserve the same rights as anyone else. The freedom of loving and marrying anyone whom we wish, just as we have the right to chose religion, just as we chose the color of clothes we are going to wear, this is called freedom. When a country denies a right to a portion of the whole, this country denies freedom to the people. This is a victory well attained and deserved, we shall only keep the memory that love is love no matter what type of body you own. As a gay man I am really greatful that this law finally comes into law, now I do not have to sacrifice that wedding in Hawa'ii! 

Asking for help

Sometimes in life for a reason or another, you might need help or you are just curious about something. When I was younger I always wished I had an older gay person to ask all the questions I had. Unfurtunately there were no one, and that's why now I do my best to put down my experiences as a gay man.

When I was around eleven years old, I had so many questions about everything I was feeling, I knew I was different but I just did not know how much different I was :). Many times I talk to my best friend about these feelings, but neither of use knew much about it, so to me was a learn as it comes experience, I do believe that if I had someone to help me in those moments of doubts and loneliness, my life would have been happier.

If you ever need help now a days there are a lot of help, either on internet or sometimes you can even call these LGBT oriented programs. Use them, believe me you will not regret it!!

GAYDAR?

Many people ask if such thing as gaydar really exists. For those whom do not know what this is, let me explain. A gaydar is klinky feeling that you get from other people on the LGTB spectrum. Personally I do believe such feeling is true, I could say that I do have an incredible gaydar. Which of course is very useful, for personal experience this feeling comes maybe at the first look, sometimes I have to look a little longer or couple times. The funny part is that I cannot explain this feeling completely for other people to understand, sometimes you just feel who is the same way, is a feeling that brings some type of I-am-not-the-only-one, for a moment of time you do not feel alone. Of course this is a complicated system, sometimes you might never know that person was from the LGBT spectrum until they mention it.

Of course gaydar is not 100% proved but I can assure you that it does exist!

born this way

Been born this way, is not a failure of nature, is not an imperfection, in the contrary this is one of the greatest blessings life could have offer you. Some people might think that this is a blessing in disguise, but I ASSURE that this is a great blessing. No one in this world will ever be the same, we are not required to be the same, differences is what makes the world keep moving.

Still now a days there are a lot of people whom believe that been an LGBT member is a matter of choice, although science has proved this wrong time after time, after time. I have faced and talk to many people whom believe this is true, and when they ask, I usually explain to them how this life is not an option, I did not wake up one day bored of life, and decided to go gay because I just wanted to make my life much more complex than it already is, of course not. The only way I get to deal with people whom think like this, is to ignore them, if they do not understand that this is not a matter of choice.

Been born this way, is one of the most amazing adventures you will ever live, sometimes it takes time to get used to it, but sooner or later you will realize how wonderful is to be able to be much more different than everyone else.

Stay positive and true to yourself and overall stay gay!!

Bullying.

As a little kid I always felt bullied, most of the time was for older people, I truly believe that if my childhood had not suffer this, I would have had a sweeter memories of my childhood. bullying is wrong, if you ever feel that you are been bullied talk to you parents and or counselors, measures have to be taken for this issue, you deserve to be happy :)

My coming out and religion experience

Now I am going to talk about one of my the toughest stages of my life, COMING OUT and RELIGION. 

I grew up in a highly religious family, therefore I was very religious as well. As a little kid I was part of the church choir, I attended to doctrine and mass every Sunday. I was a true believer of what the bible preach for all my childhood and part of my boyhood. As I started to develop and become more mature, my natural instincts start kicking in, before this it was okay to hang out all day with boys, it's okay to like to hang out more with boys, it's okay to like boys more than girls, but now it was a total mess, I was still very attached to boys, I was attracted to boys, when my friends and cousins were becoming attracted to girls. At this point of my  life I knew that liking boys the way I like them, it was a terrible sin, payable with hell. As religious as I was, I did not wanted to go to hell and suffer for the rest of my life. Around the age of 13, I decided that I had to put my world in order, I was sure I liked boys, and the result of my research on homosexuality, was that this is generic, so that I could not change.

So it was meant to happen, either I had chosen my religion and live a life of lies, or my happiness and forget about a part of my life and basically change my world. When I was around thirteen years old I decided to tell my mom, she was not surprised, she was glad I had told her. Even though she was extremely religious, she understood that my happiness was not meant to be jailed by a religion.

and the best day of your life will come...

..... and it all started as normal day at work, a normal day like any other, a friday evening hanging out with the friends, eating at a local well known restaurant, you see the most perfect being ever created, you think to yourself if you are dreaming, because he's all you ever dreamed of, and the best part it's that he notices you as well....